In the Balswicks’ book, The Family, they list four different ingredients for a strong family:

Cohesion – the ability of each member to recognize his/her individuality and the uniqueness of other members, but still come together to function as a single unit.

Adaptability – the ability to be flexible but maintain stability in the home.

Communication – the ability to clearly present emotions/ideas to family members as well as rightly interpret those same emotions/ideas as presented by others in the family.

Role Structure – Clearly defined roles for each member with well established (but not inflexible) boundaries between them.  

 Questions: Which of these do you think is most important for a family to survive? How have you seen these qualities work within your own family and in other families you have observed? What are the consequences when this kind of structure breaks down? (Please avoid naming names 🙂

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